A long time ago, I have read an article stating that seducing at the workplace could be a source of problems. At that time, I was young, and I thought it made sense. Thus, I thought I had to stay away from dating women from the workplace. However, my opinion changed when I started to travel and worked in different places all over the world. The workplace is among the best places to meet attractive women.
Thus, I thought: “How is it possible to seduce women at the office without getting in trouble?”
If you are interested in a female coworker, don’t impair your chances. Don’t try to seduce her at the workplace directly and never mention your interest to other coworkers. If you already talked to one coworker about your interest in a female coworker, stop right now, you never know how a co-worker will react. She or he may get jealous and try to ruin your efforts. In 100% of cases, co-workers haven’t a useful role in dating another co-worker. Plus, there should be no intermediaries between you and a woman.
The plan
Follow a private detective approach. Don’t be ashamed of gathering as much information about her as you can: schedule, place of living, hobbies, sports…
First of all, take her full name. At the office, it is often about knowing her prefix number and then looking into the intranet directory. Google it, and you may find interesting information. Search for her name in the local white papers to know where she lives. Try to know what her hobbies are. You may also read her tweets, her Facebook page… The more you know about her and the better it is.
The goal is to meet her outside of the office thanks to the information you gathered. If the Internet is not helpful, you may perhaps get better information from her coworkers. For instance, get closer to a coworker, and get information about your target (without telling your motivations for sure).
Once you have enough information, you have to speak to her outside of the office directly. Never try to discuss with her on the internet. In my experience, online chat was never helpful. At the workplace, Just smile and be courteous to her if you see her.
Don’t take any risks. As I said before, gather as much information as you can even if the information is not useful at first sight. Always get in touch with your target outside the office. Regarding relationship, you should get closer to your target outside the office. The office is a small society, just like a fishbowl everyone knows everything about everyone else.
On the other hand, if you meet her at a place like a salsa school, you will not be exposed to any threats that could endanger your source of income.
Protect your job and approach her outside of the office
I’ve noticed on two occasions how dating someone in the workplace can be dangerous. The first one that was when one of my friends worked in a hostel. A girl gave him her phone number. Then, he texted a very nice text telling he wanted to date her. Then, this psycho girl talked to the manager of my friend saying he harassed her. Hopefully, the boss understood that this particular consciously gave her phone number to this man in the first place.
At my office, an employee was also a supermodel. My closest coworker didn’t stop telling things to discourage me to date her when we talked about her. After thinking back, I discovered that many of my male coworkers had a bad influence when it came to dating women at work.