I have noticed a major change in those last ten years regarding lounge bars and nightclubs. Ten years ago, those places were major pick-up places. It was advised to go to a bar lounge a nightclub to get a date with a woman everywhere in the western world. Everything changed very quickly.
We witnessed several phenomena:
- Attractive women don’t go out by night so much.
- Today, in nightclubs and bar lounges, the men/women ratio highlights an imbalance between the number of men and women. For instance, if you go out to a London nightclub, you will see many men and few women. I witnessed the biggest amount of men versus women in London and Netherlands. In the nightclub Fabrik from London, I counted 11 men and 2 women on a dance floor. I also found the same men-women imbalance in the Netherlands. In best scenario, there were a male-to-female ratio of around 7:3. I remember once in a nightclub close to Den Haag in the Netherlands, I have seen men queueing to speak to a woman on a dance floor of a nightclub. Every 1 minute, a new man attempted to talk to the only woman available. It was one of the most pathetic scenes I ever saw in my life. Because of the men/women imbalance, you compete with many other men.
- Attractive women use to leave nightclubs very early. Sometimes you will not likely see the most beautiful women in nightclubs. In fact, if you compare women in the afternoon in clothing shops and women in the night at clubs, you see that afternoon women are more beautiful than night women.
- The age range of women who frequent nightclubs has become quite limited. We now find an over-representation of barely legal women in nightclubs and very few older women. I noticed that women aged above 24 years old are rarer than women who are between 18 and 23 years old. That’s only five years in a person’s life. Older people go out less to nightclubs and nightclubs tend to attract only the youngest people.
- Attractive women very often come to the club with a chaperon. A chaperon is a mix of decor and bodyguard. It is a man who accompanies ladies wherever they go. He is stuck in the friend zone and does not understand he is used as an accessory just like a “sac Vuitton.” It can turn into a white knight and prevent you from approaching the girls.
- Women are not accessible anymore in lounge bars and nightclubs. When you are addressing a woman in a bar lounge or a night-club, many women now behave as if you were accosting them on the street.
- The few women who go out can be in defensive mode. They may not willing to talk to you anyways. It is not about you, it is about their mindset.
Thus, a man may spend his money each week in lounge bars and nightclubs trying to find a woman. Nevertheless, according to my calculation, in the western world, he will only have an opportunity, every two months if he goes out every weekend. Men have to change their mindset and seduce women in day places rather than nightclubs and lounge bars. I am not saying you should not go out to nightclubs and lounge bars anymore because those places can also be useful to date a woman. Nevertheless, don’t go to lounge bars and nightclubs to pick up women.